How Much Sex is Too Much?

Sex, love and happiness

Don’t get me wrong: sex is a normal, healthy and fun part of adult life. In fact, sexual attraction and compatibility are the basis of many successful relationships.

Thinking about our geography may be natural, but acting on those thoughts as the laundry piles up can be a symptom of a problem. So, how much sex is good, and how much is too much?

Research shows that, for those in a relationship, having sex is associated with greater well-being and happiness. But bigger doesn’t mean better. People who have sex twice a week are not happier than people who have sex once a week. (Don’t worry, they’re not happy either.) 

Which brings us to the question: is it possible that overdoing the practice can prevent a happy and healthy life?

Sex between men and women

If lust has nothing to do with new love, it may be part of a bigger problem. If your libido feels out of control, or if you have sex to avoid loneliness or depression, or if you have sex despite the risk factors (such as getting a sexually transmitted disease (STI) or leaving a partner), this can be a sign of trouble.

Sexual desire — sometimes called hypersexuality, compulsive sex, or sex addiction — is a tricky subject. Some studies support the idea that drug addiction is a mental illness, but other reports show that the topic is still controversial. 

A study published in 2013 suggests that most of the time, homosexuality is actually a high desire but not necessarily a problem. 

Either way, if sex is being used as a substitute for treating a real problem, it’s time to see a doctor or therapist who specializes in sexual health.

We recommends asking yourself the following questions to help you decide if you should seek professional help: 

  • Can I control my sexuality? 
  • Do I hate my sexuality?
  • Is my sexual behavior damaging my relationships, affecting my work, or causing negative consequences, such as arrest? 
  • Am I trying to hide my sexuality?

Ultimately, it comes down to favoring quality over quantity. Having sex every day doesn’t mean it’s too much, as long as both partners are involved and no one gets hurt.

But if you have a lot of sex and one person is more satisfied than the other (read: have more orgasms), sex can start to feel like work for the part that is not satisfied. 

What sex is good for your health?

According to a recent study, Americans in their 20s have sex an average of 80 times a year, and those in their 60s about 20 times a year. ‘year. ]. So if it’s average, what’s good? Sexual behavior expert Barry McCarthy, PhD, suggests that once or twice a week improves sex life. But during the romantic phase (aka the honeymoon phase, when two people can’t stop thinking about each other), you can have sex whenever you have the chance. But keep in mind that with all that practice, sex can feel a little uncomfortable. After all, grass doesn’t stay in oil forever. If you have pain or discomfort, it is better to stop for the night. And keep a bottle of lube handy for that intense session or marathon. Not only can lube improve sex, but it can also help prevent condoms from breaking.

Try a little sex talk 

Of course, there is no right way to have sex, and the preferred amount varies from person to person. For a fulfilling and fulfilling sex life, it helps to be honest and share with your partner how often you would like to have them.

But that doesn’t mean the conversation will be boring. Telling your partner about your desires – in some ways – can be arousing. In fact, some studies show that couples who talk about sex are more sexually satisfied and happy in their relationship. In fact, greater sexual communication has been linked to more frequent orgasms in women. 

As unsexy as it sounds, it can even be a good idea during sex so that the low libido person does not feel pressure and the high libido partner does not feel rejected.

Sexual coercion

That said, if the type of sex or the amount of sex you’re having is bothering you, back off. According to Planned Parenthood, forcing someone to have sex or do something they don’t want to do is a form of sexual abuse. Don’t be silent if you don’t feel comfortable. And if your partner doesn’t accept you asking them to take a break, talk to someone who can help you or leave. Sexual coercion is not a joke.

The bottom line 

Having regular sex is part of a healthy and normal adult life. But when sex gets in the way of your daily life, it may be time to seek help from a doctor or therapist.

Our appetites for sex rise and fall, and successful couples will experience those issues as well. Sometimes the libidos match, but when they don’t, we need to take responsibility for sex by having fun ourselves. The answer may be within our grasp.